Thursday, May 27, 2010
And then we stayed home and hung out for a week or so. I guess we probably went and did some things, too - I don't really remember.
But that was a pretty good vacation. Low stress. Cheap. Easy. Good times.
We are now in the home stretch of the last days of school, gearing up for summer. And for the next little while I will be "on vacation." Whether or not that really means I am actually going anywhere will remain my little secret (and if you know the truth, shhh, don't tell). ;)
But I won't be here, on my blog. I'll be lying low. Pretending to have a different life. Checking for comments, emails, and such things - but not posting anything new or responding to very much. So, sorry for those of you who will miss me. You will miss me, won't you? But don't worry, there will be plenty to post when I get back to make up for my absence! And I might pre-post some things to keep you company in the meantime. Or . . . I might not.
Monday, May 24, 2010
because I have so much to do I can't even think straight so I'm totally wasting time on the internet instead
And I just had to share. hahaha!
And now I am locking my computer away somewhere out of reach. Don't tempt me anymore, ok? I really have things I need to do. And this isn't one of them. Really. I'm serious.
see ya . . .
And then we got to go up to my mom's house to celebrate with family.
Snow on Easter? That was obnoxious.
Snow at the end of April? Kinda crazy.
Snow on May 24th??? You have got. to be. kidding me.
Friday, May 21, 2010
But Abigail - she is fearless. So is her friend, apparently. :)
They made their skirts during recess today, too.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
They sang some cute songs and I was happy to see his mouth moving. :) We hardly ever hear him singing to songs - so I am glad to see that at least he knows the words, even if he may or may not actually be singing them, and he would never sing the songs for us.
And here he is with his teacher. He refused to look at me and smile. Oh well.
Anyway - I am filled with a lot of guilt as I contemplate the end of this school year for him. I could have, should have, worked much harder with him and done a lot more with him as far as homework, chores, behavior etc. I know I shouldn't pile guilt on myself. I know I did the best I could with whatever time, energy and patience I had (severely lacking somehow in those last 2 elements). But anyway - it's hard not to be hard on myself.
- here's a link because links are fun :)
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
I'm pretty distracted.
Trying to deal with some things.
It rained today and it was wonderful. I really love rain.
And I took Duran Duran off my ipod to make room for some Crosby Stills Nash and Young. (hahaha.)
Saturday, May 15, 2010
I saw this movie last night and really loved it. It was a kind of grand finale event for our March of Dimes Walk for Babies team. I guess those that raised enough money were awarded free tickets. I paid for mine. It was worth it. :)
I'd be interested to know how someone likes it who hasn't actually had babies yet because a lot of it was funny to me as a mom just because it was all so very familiar. I laughed - a lot. It's amazing how alike babies worldwide are - despite different parenting practices, culture, and everything. It reminds me again and again that there are very very few absolutes in parenting. Almost no "right" ways to do things. Just different ways. And somehow all these babies grow up healthy and happy and most of them go on to decide to have babies of their own someday. Amazing.
It was also interesting in the fact that we are 99.99% sure we're done having babies (wow - did I just announce that? crazy). I had heard some other moms somewhere say that this movie made them feel baby hungry. Not me. These babies are achingly adorable. I loved remembering my babies in all these wonderful, tender, miraculous stages. Oh but I am still so happy not to be waking up all night to nurse, or dealing with diaper blow-outs, or spit-up, or screaming fits. They are so worth it. Of course they are. But . . . I am done with all of that, and feeling pretty good about it. :)
Oh and just for those that may want to be forewarned: this movie contains a lot of what the movie sites call "maternal nudity." Lots and lots of bare breastfeeding. And African women. You know. So maybe not first-date material. And maybe not for anyone bothered by such things.
But if you're able to overlook that, I'd highly recommend it. It may be the most entertaining documentary I have ever seen. Yay for babies. :)
Thursday, May 13, 2010
It has struck me lately how little we really know and understand each other anyway. We build our own reality from our perceptions, colored by our emotions and memories. It's such a tricky business - thinking we know someone, thinking we are somehow the same - and we never really are. Even my husband, whom I've been close to now for 16 years (and married for 12), he still does things sometimes that surprise me. And I'm surprised to be surprised by him. And then not only are we continually thwarted in our efforts to really know who someone is, just by the nature of how deeply our selves are rooted, then we are also constantly changing, reevaluating, remaking ourselves in big and small ways. It's amazing to me, actually, that we are able to maintain any close relationships at all - given how complicated we all are.
So, my kids. My point is just that I am getting to know them. Every day I am discovering new things about who they are and who they are becoming. It's a process.
Anyway - so my friend requested a blog post telling you about some of the strengths of my children and the things about them that give me joy. So here you go. Hopefully it gives you just another little glimpse into who they are. By no means comprehensive, of course. :)
1. Abigail - she is a graceful dancer, she writes great stories and poetry and has an incredible imagination, she remembers details from the past that amaze me. She is caring and values her friendships. She loves to perform and be in front of a crowd. She'll write a song for any occasion and even composes on her violin!
2. Isaac - draws intricate mazes and games, responsible and usually obedient, he likes to spend time pacing and "thinking," loves learning all about animals more than anything, he remembers details from things he reads and learns and he's very good at math (he's started in the 5th-6th grade math book in 3rd grade). I love seeing his excitement when he learns a new song on the piano and really enjoys it. (And he looks like a mini-Zac, which of course I love.) :)
3. Samuel - ah, this little boy. He has such energy. He loves to dance, and has great rhythm. He likes to "play" guitar and piano - and loves "rock and roll" music (which to him is anything fast and loud). He is curious about everything and investigates hands-on. He also has the most infectious laugh ever. When he thinks something is funny he'll just laugh and giggle and has a hard time stopping.
4. Elisabeth - she adores her older siblings, she feels things intensely, she loves to be tickled slowly, and she is brave and bold. She loves to sing songs and learns quickly. I love her insistent kisses and cuddles.
Anyway - those are just a few things.
Really, though, it comes down to this quote I was reminded of from The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin (and that's why I've put this post under the To be Happy category),
"In many ways, the happiness of having children falls into the kind of happiness that could be called fog happiness. Fog is elusive. Fog surrounds you and transforms the atmosphere, but when you try to examine it, it vanishes. Fog happiness is the kind of happiness you get from activities that, closely examined, don't really seem to bring much happiness at all - yet somehow they do."
So I know that reading all my complaints and worries and concerns and bemoanings about my children, you may not be able to see at all how they could be bringing joy into my life. It is hard to define and explain how these little bundles of troubles bring happiness. I can't even see it sometimes when I look too closely at all the stresses of my life. These little people running around and wreaking havoc everywhere may not seem to be bringing much happiness to me, if you based your opinion on the things I talk about the most. And yet somehow they do.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
We got to the sleep lab about 8 pm, filled out about 15 pgs of paperwork and medical history, then Elisabeth watched a movie for 30 min while they attached over 30 electrodes and various monitors on her head, face, chest, feet and legs (this is where the camera would have made this post worth it. She looked craZy!! and if you're really interested, go here to read more about what they do). She was very patient and cooperative while they hooked her all up. We all thought this might turn out to be easier than we anticipated. Haha!!
She watched the movie a little longer and then decided she wanted to go to bed. It was about 9:15. She usually goes to bed at 8:30 but had fallen asleep in the car on the hr long ride to the children's hospital. I thought she actually still might go to sleep easily. Funny me.
Finally, after endless questions about the breath monitor in her nose and mouth, and moving wires around and pulling up blankets, examining the glowing red light on her foot, telling me (again and again and again) "k - g'night, I'm going to sleep now" - finally at about 10:45 she fell asleep. I had actually brought a book and a reading light thinking I might be up a bit longer than her after she went to sleep. hahaha, again, funny funny me.
The techs came in about 11:15 to adjust some of the monitors or something. I was still awake, of course. Laying there on a pull-out chair bed. And then a little later Elisabeth started snoring and making gasping sounds. This was good because that's why we were there, after all. But it made it hard for me to sleep. That and her nightlight, and the humming of the monitors and computers. And then the techs came in about 4 more times to move things around. A couple times as they were retaping things to her face, they woke her up and she cried. Or she wanted her stuffed elephant. Or she wanted the door completely shut.
Anyway - I felt like I was watching the clock all. night. long. Just waiting for morning. They told us they'd wake us at 6-6:30 to take off all the stuff. I guess I slept a little somewhere in there. But not much.
At 6:30 they woke us up and disconnected her and tried to wipe some of the electrode goop out of her hair. We left about 7 and drove an hr home. Zac had stayed home and got the kids ready for school and then went in to work late. So I took the big kids to school. Got Samuel off on the bus. Gave Elisabeth a bath and tried to get all the gunk out of her hair. And then she and I went back to bed and tried to sleep the rest of the morning.
We will hear back from her pediatrician with the results in about 2-3 weeks. And then we'll find out if she's actually stopping breathing and whether or not she'll be getting her tonsils out to fix it. Abigail had the same problem and had her tonsils taken out at age 5 - so I am pretty sure the same thing is happening. Anyway. We'll see.
And that's one more ordeal crossed off my mental list. On to the next . . .
Thanks for caring (or pretending to care). :)
Sunday, May 9, 2010
It's the hardest thing I could ever conceive of doing . . .
and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
Happy Mother's Day
(PS - this old ugly chair was given to us out of pity from our neighbor's parent's basement. We owned no furniture and we were grateful for a comfy chair - so don't knock it. :))
Friday, May 7, 2010
Here is a super-duper-zoomed-in fuzzy-out-of-focus picture of Abigail on the far right (brown hair) and her best friend next to her.
Thursday, May 6, 2010
And if you asked me how I am feeling right now I would say mostly just relieved. Zac came with me this time and it was so nice to have some moral support, even though no one had any disagreement about the placement. It feels like a huge burden has been lifted from my shoulders just in knowing the decision has been made and I agree with it.
So. Samuel will be going to the small group learning disabled class next year. It is actually a class of 1st-3rd grade, which we decided would be a good thing for him since he can still be challenged on his academic level with older kids, if appropriate, but not overwhelmed by the larger class and less individual attention of the mainstream class.
I am just relieved that all of the teachers had seen some of the things that most concerned us. Sometimes I feel like I'm just going crazy and not really sure if I'm just interpreting his behavior differently, so it is good sometimes to have my perception validated. The mainstream kindergarten teacher who had seen him in her classroom a few times had seen him shut down and not participate without help and prompting. And she saw him freak out about the wind at recess, with him whimpering and clinging to her leg - and that was very concerning to her as far as his emotional maturity and ability to handle his anxiety without a lot of help.
Anyway - we won't know until JULY exactly where or at which school this class will be held. But he will be taken by bus, so it will work out I guess. Come July, I am sure I will be freaking out again as we get to know yet another school, and principal, and everything else. I'm not really looking forward to that. But it will be good for Samuel - I feel confident about that, so that's what's most important.
I'm just so glad this is over. Now I can move on to some other things I need to deal with in my life . . . one thing at a time . . .
Have a good day, everyone.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
All within about a minute.
All while I was trying to talk to the Dr. and simultaneously divert him from his next attempt at disaster.
She kinda looked at me and said hesitantly "does he . . . have . . . ADHD?" and then, as she glanced at his chart (and I began to laugh somewhat maniacally, "hahaha, ohhh, ya think?") - "oh yep, here it is in his chart." Yeah.
At least I know I'm not the only one seeing it.
Anyway, this visit revealed no new news. He still has a slight conductive hearing loss in both ears. Not enough to worry too much about, I guess. He still has the eustachian tube dysfunction that he's had for about a year. Sometimes it causes his ears to hurt. But the only possible solution would be putting tubes in for the 4th time - but since it might not help at all - and he's doing ok overall (not in extreme pain, or causing significant hearing problems) she decided that doing tubes again wasn't the best thing to do, weighing the risks and inconveniences and cost against the potential benefit. So there really is nothing to do about it. Come back in a year.
She very kindly suggested that perhaps I wouldn't want him back in this office more than once a year, if we could help it. Agreed.
And that's it.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
- Abigail was looking at a walmart ad or other such thing the other day, looking at makeup and stuff. She turned to me and said, "you're not really one of those moms that wears makeup or really cares about fashion or tries to look good, are you." Ummm . . . I'm not really sure, but should I be offended by that?
- I mentioned awhile back on Facebook that I was having a bout of erythema nodosum - which are painful lumps under the skin on the shins. I've had 2 episodes before in my life - both times when I was pregnant with boys. Weird, I know. Most of the time the cause is unknown. When I saw the dermatologist the first time, he didn't really think it was related to pregnancy - but whatever. And this time, I am 100% positive that I am not pregnant. They typically go away on their own, but are quite painful and bothersome while they last. And it's been somewhere around 8 wks this time around that I've had the lumps. Some have gone away, some new ones have appeared. I know you don't really care. But it crosses my mind occasionally when my legs are aching and throbbing that maybe I should see a Dr. and see what is up with this. Then again I don't want to waste a $45 copay for them to tell me "yup, it's erythema nodosum and will clear on its own - eventually." The one spot of several lumps merging together on one shin is probably 3-4 inches in diameter and looks like a nasty bruise. Yuck.
- I took pictures of the Walk for Babies walk on Sat (which was freezing cold and rainy - but still fun) but took them with my least-used camera. And I can't figure out how to upload them properly onto this computer. So that post has been on hold.
- Abigail has her Hope of America performance tonight. At BYU's basketball stadium. Just imagine 4000 5th graders and their families all swarming around . . . ohhhh boy. I'll take pictures - with my good camera. And I'll try not to complain about the inevitable chaos this evening will bring. Have I mentioned how I hate crowds?
- Elisabeth has been wetting her pants nearly everyday. This child.
- School is almost over. I am having major mixed emotions about this. I'm mostly relieved it's almost over, a little panicked by un-achieved goals I had for the year, a little excited to have a break, go on vacation, etc, and a little stressed by the expectations I have for myself of things I should do to keep my kids entertained and out of trouble all summer long.
- I think I think too much.
- I've just spent all this time blogging when I should have been folding the ~5 loads of laundry gawking at me from the family room floor. Oh well.
There's probably more I could blab (complain) about but that's enough for now, don't you think?
yeah, me too.